How To Be More Assertive: Part 4
What you believe has a major impact on your behaviour, and your assertiveness.
Here are some examples of unassertive beliefs:
- "If someone refuses a request, it means they don't like me"
- "They won't want to do that, so I won't ask"
- "My needs are not as important as other peoples"
- "I have no right to ask"
- "I'd rather give in and avoid the conflict"
- "If I ask, they'll think I'm being rude or bossy"
Here are some examples of aggressive beliefs:
- "People should always do what I ask"
- "A refusal is an attack on me personally"
- "My needs are more important than others'"
What negative beliefs inhibit your assertiveness:
Here are some examples of positive beliefs:
- "We may be at different levels in the organisation, but as people we both have rights & a right to our beliefs"
- "If we both express our views, we can then explore ways of both getting what we want"
- "I'll listen to what you have to say, and I'll expect you to listen to what I have to say"
What positive beliefs do you need to develop to become more assertive'
How To Be More Assertive:
Part 5: Being Direct