How ENFJs can develop


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The development of personality occurs in phases throughout life. For someone who is young, the main task is to develop use of their preferred mental functions. As one matures, however, and approaches midlife, there is often a need to develop greater comfort with using your non-preferences. This can help you increase your performance at work, and increase your ability to deal with different people and circumstances.

Midlife development

As with all types, an ENFJ can achieve personal growth by developing any functions that are not fully developed, through actions such as learning to observe and accept the negative aspects of those people you admire, undertaking a critical appraisal of a situation or person, and expressing disagreement or criticism when it could be of value to the recipient. You may need to find an independent and objective means of verifying your insights about people, as they may be coloured by your subjective viewpoint. You may also need to pause and think more, to encourage others to articulate their own needs and use active listening to verify your understanding.


A common theme of development for all types after midlife is individuation. This involves learning to value and develop various "opposites", not just the opposite typological preferences. Through reconciling opposites, your personality becomes more individual and unique, and your personality type may change. You might also reach the stage where your closest personality type is no longer a description of you, but it is merely a part of your personal history.

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